What kind of father are you

              (Be a great dad)

                           By
  
                Makgato machaba

it is not as frightening as the communities we are based in shows it to be when coming to raising kids and be the best. It is a duty of passion and love, a courageous journey of guide in moulding someone to become even better in life. Remember, you cannot be a good father if you are not true to yourself. You need to be sensitive when coming to your family. A lot of good father start off by committing themselves fully into their homes. They dedicate time and put much effort into their childrens life.

You must be a role model to your kids, they must love you and miss you when you are gone. But oftentimes in life we forget that education is vital and imperative to all aspects of life. The keys in raising children is very advance and thus makes this process long to understand. If you have problems understanding your children, you cannot raise good children. If you are without respect and love over your family then you need help. Children resembles the way they where raised at a later stage in life. You will hear a man complaining that he is having problems with his children's behaviour but he fail to discipline himself first. You cannot fight your wife infront of them it will only damage this children.

As a father, have you ever struggled to choose sides between your mom and your father? Did you feel how painful and confusing it is? I plead with all south african men. I plead with a broken heart to make you understand the broken life you put upon your kids by letting them meddle in your battles. Do not be abusive as a man. Not at once. This will affect your kids behaviour in the subject of their entire life long devotion in shot and long term.

I know of men who think spending time with their children is not a cultural thing, they never share their feelings or even chat with their family. They come to the house as someone who makes rules and leave. It is indeed disappointing, I know of many kids who are scared of their father, when he approaches a house they fly like ninjas and disappears. When this man enters the gate of his compound he becomes a monster, you don't know when is he gonna realise the damage he has caused. Your son will be irresponsible and abuse women also, your daughter will be miserable and hate every man. She will know a man as someone who beat,rape and hurts people. Why are you this bitter?

As a father, you need to ask yourself questions about your kids. This will make you more concerned in their lives. Ask yourself this question. If your kids where to live the same life as you, will you be satisfied? What are the things that you can change and educate them better?

I am sure you are now asking yourself questions, you really want to know what is it that you can do to be a great father. Well here are some few tips for men with passion of raising good children.

Love your wife and respect her. Make your family happy and treat them like diamonds. The little money that you get, spend it with your family, show them affection and respect at all the time. When you make your wife too happy, she glow, she becomes a good mother and ultimately, a happy mother raises a good children. Make your wife listen to you because you will need to become a team and agree on a same thing. Your rules should be very strict, don't be too hard but be someone with dignity, when you say no it should not be questioned.

study your children and be able to know them even in their sleep. Explain to them the kind of family you want and how they should conform themselves to achieve your happiness also. Listen to your children and share jokes with them. Be a daddy to your children but not a father. When you wake up in the morning and you pass in the corridor, your children should automatically smile just by seeing your face. They shouldn't be scared at you, not at once. Explain your problems to them and share what you can maintain or afford and what you cannot.

Teach them respect and discipline. Make your children be very afraid to disappoint you. If you hate smoking, they should hate cigarette. If you hate beer, they shouldn't even want to see the bottle. Be a celebrity in your house. When you knock and your wife opens, the first thing to do should be a smile. Then I can assure you. You will have a well raised children. With a good behaviour. Love your family and respect your children and your wife.

You cannot be a good father while having 12 more kids outside marriage. You cannot be a good father when your wife don't even know how much you earn.
How can you discipline your son to become a better man when your mistress called on your wife's phone yesterday, will he listen and believe in you?
you cannot be a good father without taking responsibility in your own children.

when you raise children, you have power to damage them, or build them. What kind of father are you?and to the youth, what kind of a father do you want to be?
What kind of a father are you?